All my life, I've spent way too much energy and time caring what people thought about me.
And feeling sorry.
As a musician, I figured if people didn't like me (and-by extension-my music), they wouldn't buy my records. I've apologized to more fans than I care to admit for failing to deliver the sound they wanted.
As a restaurateur, I figured that if people didn't like me (and-by extension-my restaurant), they wouldn't support my business. I've apologized to more customers than I care to admit for failing to deliver the food they wanted.
The theme is unfortunately clear.
Reader, I'm tired of being sorry all the time. This week, I spent a great afternoon with my kids, doing corn angels in a silo and giving zero rips about what anybody thought of us. It was liberating. My mind actually felt lighter. I felt myself exhale for what seemed like the first time in weeks.
What a simple concept: stop caring if people like you.
As an overachieving adult, I know I've looked for ways to control most situations. But the simple fact is, you really can't control if people like you or not. And if people do happen to like you, they certainly don't want you to spend your time apologizing to them. They want you to be yourself, unapologetically. They want you to create from a place that makes you happy. And they want you to care about them in this same way.
Everybody else? Well, you can't please everyone. I'm looking forward to a very un-sorry week ahead. See you next Monday. -Em